Excerpt from Chapter Ten- Guilt

This is an excerpt from Chapter Ten-Guilt

In this chapter we discuss the different types of Guilt and the effects that they have on us. The excerpt discusses "Perceived Guilt" this type of guilt can be very damaging. It can take it's toll on not only on the person who carry's it, but love ones and peers will suffer the ill effects also. This is a type of guilt that we put upon ourselves (we may feel it is our cross to bear)!  When we accept the weight of the burden by constantly  bearing it, we nurture it and allow it to control our lives.

There is also a different type of GUILT, a perceived type of GUILT or a guilt that we put upon ourselves.

For example: Situations can happen that are totally of our control, but still we feel responsible even though it truly was not our fault.

Has this ever happened to you?

How did it make you feel?

This type of GUILT is not as cut and dry as the guilt of committing a crime or physically harming someone else,

although there are tough repercussions from both. This type of GUILT can be deep, dark and painful, often hidden and tucked away where we THINK no one else can see.

When we take this type of guilt and put it upon ourselves it becomes a Burden of Guilt which is like picking up a 50 lb sack of potatoes and carrying it around with us everywhere we go. Over time we can learn to accept the weight of the burden. This burden will begin to define who we are if we are not careful!  This type of constant companion can be detrimental to our lives and our health if we never choose to face down the burden and deal with it. The good news is that right now, this very moment you can take your 50 lb sack of GUILT off your shoulders and lay at the feet of Jesus Christ. He will take it and He will throw it all away. You can be set free from your burden of GUILT! He will heal your heart, soul and mind. You can walk in freedom from guilt.

 IF you will ALLOW Christ to do his work in you today!

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Excerpt from Boys to Men-Lessons for Life©/ Why do you say what you say do what you do?

Why do you say what you say do what you do?©

This chapter address's committing a crime or an injustice to someone else. We discuss the difference between Worldly sorrow (the I got caught with my hand in the cookie jar kind of sorrow) and Godly sorrow (true heart felt sorrow)

When you were arrested how did it make you feel?

Did you feel sorrow for what you did? Was it because you genuinely felt guilty for the crime you committed or was it remorse because you got caught?

Let’s think about this for a minute…

We can repent for a wrong that we have done, but if we are self-motivated and TRULY don’t feel the burden of sorrow in our heart for what we have done then the act of repentance it just that- AN ACT! OUCH!!  That hurts!

WORLDLY SORROW- will cause us to blame others and circumstances for the reason for why we committed the sin or we feel guilty simply because we got caught.

GODLY SORROW- Is when we accept and take ownership of the fact that we have done something wrong and TRULY feel the pain of that act deep in our hearts. We must then repent before God. (Asking HIM to forgive us) We then can live victoriously through grace overcoming the obstacle of SIN in our lives.

 It is only when we receive God’s grace that we can TRULY overcome Sin and walk in freedom from the bondage sin causes in our lives.

2 Corinthians 7:10

For the kind of sorrow God wants us to experience leads us away from sin and results in salvation. There is no regret for that kind of sorrow. But worldly sorrow, which lacks repentance, results in spiritual death.

What brought you to the place where you committed a crime?

What compelled you to commit the crime?

Was it someone else’s fault?

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All you need is a few people with a Heart for lost and hurting young men and the patience to listen and allow them to speak. Come on you can do it! The best part of all your hard work will be the opportunity to witness the transformation of these young men. The lessons encourage them open up, to talk, probably shed a few tears, ask many questions then after a time of ministry and  prayer the smiles come! To see one of these youth go from leaning back in their chair's with arms folded and and that "leave me alone look"to one that is fully engaged, smiling and happy when they leave the class-Priceless!

An excerpt from Boys to Men Lessons for Life©/ INTEGRITY

Chapter Five

 MAN UP………!!!

INTEGRITY

Psalm 119 (NLT)

“Blessed is the man that walks in integrity and follows the teachings of the Lord”!

What is the meaning of Integrity?

Adherence to moral and ethical principles, Soundness of moral character; honesty

Honesty and Integrity are the building blocks of our walk with Christ. They can be the cornerstone to much success in your life!!

If you aspire to OWN these two principles, to make them your goal no matter the circumstances, there will be no limit to where you can go and what you can do with your life!!

This is the truth In spite of the fact that some SEEM to get promotions, money, cars, clothing, etc., by either stealing, lying or through some dishonest method. Things that are gained dishonestly don’t last; they are here today and gone tomorrow.

There is an old saying, “Money just flows through my hands like water, I don’t know where it went”. Honesty and Integrity should be your instant reaction to any type circumstance that you face.

The next time you are faced with a situation where you could possibly gain something you have wanted If only you were to compromise and do something dishonest.

Do the unusual thing..”BE HONEST”!!

Let Honesty become the usual thing to do!!

Remember this..

You are just one unusual response away from your next miracle!!

To be a “Man of Integrity” means to make a conscious choice. Sometimes it means that you will have to make a sacrifice. We can choose to walk in integrity and honesty. We can choose to MAN Up to this responsibility.

Why Man Up?

Because it is a true test of manhood no matter what your age may be! Choosing to walk in INTEGRITY is the high calling of a true man!! We can choose to be the best person we can possibly be, regardless of our circumstances and regardless of who we were in the past. We CAN do all things through Christ who strengths us. HE will put our feet on solid ground; HE and HE alone will teach us how to walk in INTEGRITY if only we will ask and allow HIM to!! Christ has promised us that we would be the head and not the tail; that we would be first and not last if we will keep his precepts!!

The world today is full of people that want to be first! They want to be noticed by others, so they do and say inappropriate things to get attention drawn to them. Some will do anything to get this inappropriate attention even if it means that someone ELSE has to get hurt in the process. There is no thought given to put another’s need before them.

Experiment:

In some small way, put SOMEONE else first today, and then take a moment to experience how it felt to do something kind for someone else.

In what small way could you put someone first today? _________

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Experiment:

Someone is “pushing your buttons” today;

they seem to be trying their best to make you get mad or start a fight. Just be quite and keep your cool!

Then take a moment later to experience how it felt NOT to give in to your anger… but instead… just walked away!

YOU ARE JUST ONE UNUSUAL RESPONSE AWAY FROM YOUR NEXT MIRACLE!

If a situation did erupt TODAY and you decided to walk away from it, what do you think would happen? ____________________

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Romans 12:17 (NLT)

Never pay back evil with more evil. Do things in such a way that everyone can see you are honorable!

Proverbs 19:11 (NIV84)

A man's wisdom gives him patience; it is to his glory to overlook an offense.

Colossians 3:9-10 (NLT)

Don’t lie to each other, for you have stripped off your old sinful nature and all its wicked deeds. Put on your new nature, be renewed as you learn to know your Creator and become like him.

What does it means to YOU to walk in INTEGRITY? ______

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Remember:

YOU ARE JUST ONE UNUSUAL RESPONSE AWAY FROM YOUR NEXT MIRACLE!

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Have you ever questioned your purpose?

  Have you ever wondered if God has a plan for your life?  Have you ever asked your self; is this all there is? Is this all I was put on earth do? To get up each day, to go to work, to come home, to clean the house, cook the food, clean up go to bed get up the next day and start all over again? I remember being a young mother somewhere in my 30's asking that very question. I began at that time to question my purpose, what was I put here on earth to do. At night I would get down on my knees and pray, I would ask the Lord to reveal to me his purpose in my life. I truly wanted to know what Gods plan for my life was.  I worked as a decorator I had a wonderful business that I loved! My clients would fly me all over to redo their new homes. But I always felt a tugging in my heart that there was something else I was to do. My life was full between raising a family,work and church there wasn't much time for anything else. But still I kept praying about my purpose in life. Then out of the blue my beatuiful daughter was diagnosed with Hodgkin's Lymphoma. Our world was turned upside down. Cancer had crept into my house and with it came fear and worry, it was uncharted territory for all of us. I shed many tears as I watched her in her days of suffering. My purpose was very clear at that time in my life it would be to do everything I could to help her survive her illness. I thought many times this must be my purpose to take care of my daughter. I couldnt see the big picture because I was so caught up in my now! My daughter made it through it was a long year of treatments but she is fine and is married now with two beatuiful children. If you would have asked me back then if I could ever see myself going into detention centers to work with incarcerated young men I probably would have looked at you as though you had two heads!! I never could have pictured myself doing anything like that. I was a decorater through and through!  Detention  centers would be dreary and depressing places that I probably feel the need to decorate. Since there was never anywhere that I would go that I would not feel the need to rearrange or tidy up the place.But remember I spent many years seeking Gods plan for my life and it wasn't until just a few years ago that I really began to understand the depths of HIS purpose for my life and not MINE or my agenda. You know something, from the very first time I walked in the detention center four years ago there has never been one time did I think "this place needs a face lift" all I ever thought about is how can I put a smile on these kids faces. 

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What is Boys to Men-Lessons for Life Christian outreach program

Boys to Men-Lessons for Life is a Christian outreach program for at-risk and incarcerated young men. 
 I have been part of a volunteer ministry group through my church for four years at a local Detention center. From my very first visit I felt the need for structure for our time together. I began writing little lessons, they were well received by the young men and I began to see how much they were being ministered too through the lessons. Those lessons have now become  a workbook "Boys to Men-Lessons for Life" designed to be used in a group setting. The workbook contains 12 different lessons. Each lesson addresses one of the many tough issues that young men today are faced with such as anger, guilt, deception, wisdom,etc. The workbook is designed to be a discussion starter and for reader participation. 

We all know that most young men don't like to openly talk about their feelings and will do anything necessary to avoid them all together.  Through the use of this program our time together is now structured and if you have ever worked with young men you know that things can get out of hand very quickly. When confronted with thought provoking questions   on a subject such as anger (here is an example from Boys to Men-Lessons for life). "Have you ever felt anger over an injustice to someone you knew or an event that you witnessed? How did it make you feel?  I have witnessed total silence fall over a group of gang members. I have seen their face's look down and have seen tears fall as they contemplate a question such as this. These were gang members of course they had witnessed things, but they never thought about how those events may have effected them.  The lessons in this workbook are tough they are not meant to be taken lightly. My goal when starting this ministry was to make these young men think and allow them the time they need to talk. It is not about us (the workers) we are not there to hear ourselves talk. Boys to Men-Lessons for Life is about encouraging young men to open up and begin to deal with their feelings.  The condition of our young men today is grave. Reckless abandon is the norm. Moral value is nothing. The lure of ill-gotten gain and quick money is the driving force behind most of the failure of our youth today.  All is not lost though and the bottom line is.. these kids (as bad as some are) are just that they are kids!